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Too Much To Do?

What is too much to do? Is it possible it is a way of looking at what we want to do, what we feel we need to do?
I experience occasions, sometimes more often than others, a sense of having too much to do. Getting into this space can also lead to an experience of overwhelm. When I find myself in this situation I have learned to step back and reassess my “list of too much to do” items.

One simple strategy I use to elevate the feeling of too much to do or overwhelm is to stop and re-evaluate what I want to do. I do this by making a list on paper of everything that I have been holding in my head. Just this one step often provides great relief.

The second step is to begin to prioritize the things on my list. I prioritize by putting a 1 next to the items I feel are the most important items for me to complete first. If that is a short list I might then go ahead and prioritize some of the items as a 2. Most of the time this gives me plenty of work to do in the near future. To keep from falling back into the too much to do trap I perform this little exercise 2-3 days a week, based on what I need that particular week.

Learn & Grow

Ted Mersino works with individuals and groups to develop the skills and abilities to create more of what they want in their life. Contact Ted today for a free consultation at ted (at) pivotalgrowth.com or 541-515-4133.

Make Your Wish A Reality

A goal can start out as a wish. It’s something we want in our life. Something we want to add, change or removed. They can both also start out with a lot of energy and excitement.

And that may be where the commonalities end. Where a wish may never produce results in and of itself a goal has the potential to create the desired outcome.

Moving from a wish to reality:

  1. Get clear on what you want and why you want it.
  2. Determine when you want to achieve your goal and put a completion date on it.
  3. Now quantify your goal. For example, I will complete 15 pages a week of my book for the next 10 weeks.
  4. Share your plan with people you trust allowing them to support you and celebrate you as you make progress.
  5. Ask for help from individuals that have experience if/when you encounter a obstacle or challenge.

Be cognoscente that goals may require us to stretch and may create resistance within ourselves, that is OK. Going after goals is a great opportunity to learn and grow, both from stretching and from examining our resistance.

Ted Mersino works with individuals and groups to develop the skills and abilities to create more of what they want in their life. Contact Ted today for a free consultation ted (at) pivotalgrowth.com or 541-515-4133.

Change & Overwhelm – 5 Suggestions

The stock market crashing, losing a job or a good friend – can all be a significant events in our lives, significant change and they can all trigger a sense of overload or overwhelm.

Change is one constant we can all depend upon. We may not always know the time variable of change, but we can be certain of it. A potential outcome of change is a sense of overwhelm.

Overwhelm as I am using it here refers to a sense of emotional overload. We are experiencing so much change or information (e.g., grief, sadness, fear) that we feel overloaded or overwhelmed.

Experiencing a sense of overwhelm does not need to be a lasting feeling or much less than a fleeting feeling. There are things we can consciously choose that help us move through overwhelm. Here are five (5) suggestions for shifting out of overwhelm.

  1. Focus on the facts versus a story (making up one or buying into that of another).
  2. Stay in the moment, where we work best (versus getting worried about what might happen).
  3. Identify steps you can take (if any) to better the situation.
  4. Create a plan if there are several steps you can take
  5. Focus on the 2-3 highest priority action steps you can take and tackle those first.

Ted Mersino works with individuals and groups to develop the skills and abilities to create more of what they want in their life. Contact Ted today for a free consultation ted (at) pivotalgrowth.com or 541-515-4133.

 

 

Gratitude Made Easy

Our family has a 9-10 year old female corgi/golden retriever mix. We got her from the shelter 2 years ago and she has turned out to be a great dog for us. This afternoon when I returned home she met me half way up the stairs as I was coming down. When we reached the bottom she gave me a quick bark. Roughly translated, I need to go out and I want you to take me.

And then this is when it gets good. Once she gets the signal that I am going to take her out (I get the leash) she gets all excited and starts jumping around with all kinds of enthusiasm. You would think she was getting the biggest juiciest piece of steak in the world (though she could not chew it if she did), but no, she is getting to go outside to relieve herself. In her excitement she is letting me now how much she appreciates me taking her out.

What a great expression of gratitude. And a great side effect, regardless of my mood prior to that moment, I get a smile on my face.

Gratitude. It does not have to be hard. It can actually be FUN.

Create Time for Your Success – 5 Steps

The idea of creating my own time seemed foreign to me when I originally heard of it. We have 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and 52 weeks in a year. How do I create more time.

Let’s take what cost us time first. I have a list of 10 things I want to get done. I prioritize them based on the sense of urgency I feel toward each of those items. Sense of urgency equaling the potential for pain I might feel if I don’t get something done. Simple enough right? No. Yes, some of those urgent things may give you an increase in energy, but quite often the urgent things are a drain on our system. Going out on a limb a bit further, I might add that always putting the urgent things first can turn into a habit, a perpetual cycle.

Now let’s look at our 10 things that we want to get done from the stand point of what will give me a return on my time ©. For me, writing this blog post gives me a boost. I don’t write my blog because I have to write it. I write it because it aligns with my purpose, my direction in life. And when I do write in my blog, my energy level goes up and I have more energy to do those things that I want to get done. In a sense, I have compressed what I can get done into a smaller time frame because I have increased my energy to do what I want to do.

By doing the things that energize us we are investing in our energy thereby increasing it and what we can get done – which results in a return on our time.

My 5 Steps for Creating Time

  1. Create a list of things you want to do (daily, every other day, weekly, etc.)
  2. Now prioritize the items on your list based on which items will give you the most energy.
  3. Start each day working on those things at the top of your list (those energy building task).
  4. Mid-way through your day evaluate your energy level and your list. Would you get more done continuing to do those high energy activities or would it feel right to switch and get an urgent item off your list? Make a decision and do that thing.
  5. Periodically take note of your energy level. When you find your energy level dropping ask yourself what it is you really want to be doing now.

I do not see this as a time management technique. I see it as an energy expanding technique that has an investment affect on our time, of creating more time for us to do what I want to do.

Give it a try for a week and let me know in the comments. Or email me your thoughts and reactions at .

Enjoy Achieving Goals by Releasing Attachment

Enjoy Achieving Goals by Releasing Attachment. When I first came across this idea I was in a bit of disbelief. In my mind, you set a goal and then you pull out all the stops to achieve it. It may cause pain, it may even cost you relationships – but if you are worth your salt you achieve your goals.

I would talk to my one time mentor about this pain I had in my chest. I felt run down, sad and depressed. I was achieving plenty in my life and, at the same time feeling empty. The analogy he gave me was that a bow needs to be unstrung periodically or it will loose it’s potency. It will have nothing left to give.

What I came to see is that I held goals as things “I had to achieve”. I had become so attached to them that they defined me, my happiness and sense of self.  It was not a choice, but a must. I needed them, had to have them, should be achieving them or – I FAILED.

What I want you to get, you can have a goal and pursue it with all the same zest but without the possessiveness. Set your goals and let them go. Follow your intuition and do those things that you feel in the moment will move you the most in the direction of your goals (but without the stick that says I am so attached to achieving this goal I will need to flog myself if I don’t achieve it).

Allow their to be flow, the natural up and down movement forward of the waves in the ocean. If you find yourself stopped in the movement of your goal it might be time to move on to things that do inspire you.

Does this concept make sense to you? Have you held goals in a similar or different way? What is your story?

When Persistence Pays Off

I have always prided myself on having persistence, tenacity. I see both of those qualities as valuable to me creating what I want in my life. When I have come to find though, with both of these qualities, is that they can have a great deal more impact when they have a very clear boundary and focus.

For example, a man is planting new grass in his lawn. He buys the right amount of seed for the job and sets out throwing the seed around his lawn. Over the weeks to follow he notices that his lawn is not nearly as thick as the manufacturer of the seed he purchased proclaimed. So he purchases more seed and repeats the seeding process by throwing the seed around his lawn. Again, the results are negligible compared to the manufacturers claims on the bag. In his persistence he repeats the process all over again.

After his third application of the grass seed his neighbor stops over and she thanks him making her lawn so much thicker and richer. The man did not understand as his only intent along with his persistence was to improve his own lawn. Seeing his perplexed look she goes on to share what she observed.

You have great persistence in trying to improve your lawn, but your boundaries (focus) for applying the seed was flawed. I saw you throwing the seed to the wind. Sure enough, some of the seed went on your lawn, but much more landed in your driveway, on my lawn and in the street by way of the NE wind. Throwing the seed into the wind may have some impact on your lawn but not nearly the same impact you would get with a more focused application of the seed that hits your target, in this case your lawn.

Whether you are looking for a job, additional clients, better relationships, etc., narrow down what you really want, why you want it, learn as much as you can about it (even as you are going for it) and then stick to that specific set of prospective clients, companies, relationship and so on.

Yes there may be low hanging fruit out there, but in my experience, the low hanging fruit comes from the relationship you have developed, which can take persistence but also focus (authenticity, integrity, etc.).