We can always find someone or something to blame. In the blaming we are the victim. When you have choice and you choose to remain a victim, you are choosing the path of recreating the pattern you are blaming on another. You are no longer the victim. What do you need to do for yourself (let go, take action, speak the truth, etc) to change the situation and to take back your power?
Holding onto or resisting life experiences (mentally – consciously or unconsciously, or emotionally) blocks the heart from experiencing all the spirit and aliveness that is available to us in the day-to-day moments of our life. It can take courage to face and walk into what we hold onto. Courage begets courage. What one thing could you turn and face today?